Pretty much, yes. I would like second opinions.

1. I know the incidents in my second post were SA, no question. I wonder about the incidents in the first, if they are SA as well.

2. I am unclear about the boundaries concerning my grandson who will be 3 in February. It's more his age than his gender, but I felt awkward about checking his diaper. Since I am not his Mommy, and I don't see him every day, I didn't want him to misunderstand or feel unsure about what I was doing.

Oh, and a light went on about my mother. Her uncle had molested her and every one of her siblings, and no one protected her. Later, when my stepfather molested me and her reaction was inadequate--even to the point of almost getting back together with him later--was it because she didn't KNOW she was supposed to protect me? Did she think this happened in all families?