I started seeing "Robert" in July. I met him online, we talked for a few weeks before meeting in person. Our first few dates we would take long walks through the parks and surrounding neighborhoods. It seemed like we just had the most amazing times together. We were starting things out very slow. It took him an entire week to finally kiss me and when he did it was the most perfect kiss ever. First time we made love was close to perfect (a little awkward being the first time) and each time after that was better than the last.

Things went great for three months we were nearly inseparable, but he is in the military and mid October had to go away to training for 4 months. He gets to his training, we video chat multiple times a week for the first couple weeks. Then without notice he stops logging on as much and starts going out with the guys for drinks. "Robert" has stomach issues from past alcohol abuse and it is not good for him to drink. I tell him I am upset that I haven't seen much of him and that I am concerned for his health. The next weekend he sends a message saying that we need to break up because we will be spending too much time apart (he will be deploying next year when he is done with training) and that he has trust issues, he has been through a long distance relationship (he was married for 4 years) and it is not fair to either of us. I asked him if there was more to it, if this was coming from a guilty conscience and he admitted "yes I cheated on you."

I told him that he totally disrespected me and ruined my trust, but I still love him and would be willing to work things out. He told me that he doesn't deserve me and that I should move on. I have never been hurt so much in my life. I know that we were not together for very long, but it seemed like much longer. What should I do?