I had no idea how bad it was for you. I've heard stories of men like your husband, but it's never hit this close to home. I gather he has no job? How long has that been the case? Is he looking?

I am flabbergasted by what you're faced with, day after day. I don't see how anyone can live that way, to be honest. But he's obviously addicted to the media, maybe the complex of media stimuli/"friends"(semi-virtual)/alcohol. He is in serious trouble.

Is there anyone he looks up to whom you might talk to about this? If not, I suggest you speak to your medical doctor. I don't know what resources you have. You need help, I know--but the truth is that he has a major problem that is actually being recognized by professionals now. Some men (mainly men) who don't have/abandon job responsibilities live this way. Your husband is hardly the only one.

I don't know whether you can find any comfort in knowing that he's not rejecting you. He is sick, addicted to something as powerful as alcohol or heroin. He will very likely need professional intervention to recover. But you have absolutely NOTHING to do with his current behavior.

I'll see what I can learn & get back to you.

Roadrunner