This is one of the hardest issues to deal with, in my opinion, and they are feelings and behaviors that have plagued me for years. I try to fight them in pretty much the ways the others describe above, but you have to be SO vigilant and self-aware, it can be difficult.

I would also add that, while I have not had the opportunity to try it, this is the sort of thinking that cognitive behavioral therapy is targets, so that would be an option should it be available to you.

DJ