I've been with my current group for over a year now, bur I still don't feel I belong there. I feel I don't understand them and they don't understand me. I haven't felt this alienated from a set of people since before I started therapy twenty years ago. I hoped to draw strength from this group, but I find I need strength from other sources just to stay here.

This is not my first group. In my previous group I felt loved and accepted. Why can't I find those feelings here?

I have raised these questions at the group, but I always felt insulted and rejected by their response. My wife says to dump them.

My current T was a facilitator at my previous group, so perhaps she can explain what bound me to it. Perhaps, of course, it was her physical presence. Perhaps it was the fact that no one there called me a fecking arsehole.