thank you both for your reply...i guess i was so wrapped up in my daughter i failed to say i have a 20 yr old son...whom my x adopted 14 yrs ago...alot of issues between my x and my son...she too tries to fix things with them...i didnt add on my post that the doc yesterday thought alot of it was coming from my x involving her in adult issues ,such as finances cuz of his support and his threats of suicide and his alcholism..i didnt add any of that cuz i dont wanna seem like i am blaming him for everything...i try the best i can to listen to her stories of him and the problems..with time limits now...i try very hard to not involve her in any of my problems...but when i was sick..she saw...i guess i just wanna say thanks you for your replies...i am aware now and and will care for her with the help of the doctor and do the best i can to help her beat this with nothing but love and understanding...thanks again sherry