Hi Roadrunner,
I think that many of us hope that our Ts can see through our facade to deal with our real problems. In my mind, I believe I want my T to care enough to see the real me. In reality, I have found that I was frustrated at first with my T because she didn't treat the problems on my mind. I am now able to verbalize these, or at least some of it.
Today at my session, I plan on asking for a couple of minutes to vent-this is how I have been starting lately, and I find that somewhere in my jumble, she is able to identify my needs.
-Good luck!
Bluemountains