i agree too but it can be tough to see the borderline clearly when you try to practice it. except in some cases where someone is really taking advantage and "tough love" is clearly needed.

Support is necessary it is only when it becomes too much that the person uses it as a crutch and it hinders them. it follows along the same lines as "give a man a fish and you have fed him for the day. teach a man to fish and you have fed him for a lifetime"

i don't know if it shows here, i'm a litte different online i think, but in the 3d world i almost never give advice. when someone comes for advice i try to help them figure out for themselves what would be best. they know that better than i know. to many people are so quick to know "what's good for you". and a lot of times people who make their own decisions, once in a while, just need a break and need to be heard. they go to someone and get advice and it just pisses them off. sometimes they just need to not be alone, to regroup and gain their strength back so they can make their own decisions. being sensitive to that i think you have to know someone pretty well.

i'm rambling so much i think i could be a guest star on the sci-fi series "babbling five" . i plan to finally try again for some sleep now.

nighty night everybody. come... back... here... you... rab...bit...!

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-- Dave
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