You make awesome sense, and this is something that I have struggled with day after day after day. The thing that you have to realize is that, even if you do stay away from scales and mirrors, how your emotions are going to be directly associated with how you feel inside. Any number won't be low enough or no mirror is going to reflect what you want to see if you don't have self acceptance on the inside.

personally, I see nothing but a body full of scars a cellulite, but I have been working more on my mental well being as opposed to blasting fat or slimming thighs.

Try this, I've set up a little psuedo shrine set up around my bathroom mirror. Create a space with something that you cherish (to me its a wierd glass lamp) place a photo of you as a baby or small child in a beautiful frame and go to the store and purchase yourself a greeting card, a love note. Remind yourself, even if your outside apperance isn't exactly what you want it to be, it doesn't mean you can't still love yourself.

Self love, to me at least, has been more gratifying than any dress size or beauty contest.

Hopefully that helps.