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Originally Posted by anneruok
I tell him I am upset that I haven't seen much of him and that I am concerned for his health. The next weekend he sends a message saying that we need to break up because we will be spending too much time apart (he will be deploying next year when he is done with training) and that he has trust issues, he has been through a long distance relationship (he was married for 4 years) and it is not fair to either of us. I asked him if there was more to it, if this was coming from a guilty conscience and he admitted "yes I cheated on you."
I told him that he totally disrespected me and ruined my trust, but I still love him and would be willing to work things out. He told me that he doesn't deserve me and that I should move on. I have never been hurt so much in my life. I know that we were not together for very long, but it seemed like much longer. What should I do?
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It sounds to me like he really does not want to continue the relationship, is responding to his own issues and background and I am suspicious of how easily he told you he cheated on you (he may not have but you gave him the opportunity to help himself break it off).
He does not sound mature enough for a relationship at this time and I do not think he will back down and wish to "work it out". He has been clear he wants to end the relationship and even added the cheating on you to make it easier, more "final" and yet you are trying to hold on. There's nothing there to hold to except some good memories.