Thank you guys for your advice. I knew I wasn't wrong in feeling how I felt about it being sprung on me.

She's not his REAL child, but if he treats her as one, he should have told me, bottome line and my feelings should be considered.

He said he finally had the talk with her about being out by Jan. 1st...which is only a month away, so, I'll leave it alone until then. In January, if I get the same bulls**t, I'm gonna tell him I'm leaving until she does and he better hope he isn't replaced by then. I'm done with the situation.