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Originally Posted by peaches100
Wow, so many insightful answers -- posts i need to read through and really think about, and respond to.
About 2 hours ago, i remembered something hugely significant. Tomorrow is the first anniversary of my t's mother's death!!! I feel like such a piece of crap now! It was totally insensitive to have sent those emails to my t about "my" disappointment! I'm a rotten client! I emailed her that I remembered this, and that it was so insensitive, and i'm so sorry. But she didn't reply. 
I'm supposed to have a session tomorrow, and then she's gone on vacation to Panama and i won't see her for 3 weeks. I don't even feel like going tomorrow. I feel horrible for being so selfish. . . |
Ah, Peaches, it's ok. You weren't being selfish, you were being a CLIENT. I'm guessing you don't usually invest this much in making your feelings known, so what you did was part of good therapy.
It's ok that you forgot about this -- you have to avoid being overly concerned with T's personal feelings, as a rule. But perhaps this can give you some potential insight as to why she might be replying in a very by-the-book way -- she might be overwhelmed. Her not replying may simply be because she'd rather talk about this all in person.
From where I sit, this new information makes me think your sharing an "I love you" with her, truly a special gift even if not fully acknowledge as such, comes at a very good time.
