I'm one whose situational depression turned into Major Depression reoccurant & ended up on permanent disability because of it Hit at the age of 43....in & out of the mental hospitals, eating disorder treatment, with more sui attempts than I can even remember.

Who would have even thought that just loosing one's career could have caused something like that to hit me.......sure wasn't anything I would have guessed even a year before it hit. Have to admit that a bad marriage didn't help my situation any either.....but I really didn't know how bad it was until I realized how incompetent my husband was at caring for things when I wasn't able to anymore.

I know that feeling down hit me harder just this last weekend.....when I have to deal with trying to keep a bill out of collection because medicare is stupid enough to pay for x-rays required by a chiropractor but won't pay for the radiologist to read them.......that really down feeling hit me.....so I can relate to the really down feeling you get when you have to deal with the financial situation you have found yourself in.

At least you aren't as irresponsible as my husband was & just completely ignored everything that had to do with the financial mess he got us into. He didn't even bother to respond to the IRS when they sent him a letter claiming that back taxes were due.....almost a year later after I left him, all our mail was being forwarded to MY FARM & I found out (the day before my birthday). Yep.....that's how an irresponsible husband handles situations.....maybe so he avoids the depression.....hmmmmm. I just relate him to an ostritch.....he sticks his head in the sand & can't figure out why he keeps getting kicked in the rear. I really don't think that avoiding responsibilities reduces depression either.......I think your T is right....you just need to step up to the plate & deal with it. Sometimes the only way to resolve things is to plow through them I get them INTO THE PAST.......I'm sure that your wife is there to support you & you don't have to go through it alone.