Hi Caroline - hang in there. grounding while experiencing the memory pieces will easier each time you do it with that specific memory piece. The more information about "shula" you and your therapist can get by triggering that memory piece to replay will help you to understand things and funtion much better today. When I first started doing memory work and using triggers I could not stay aware either. but that information that my therapist got while the memory was replaying while I was not aware was still helpful in figuring things out. Hang in there. It will get easier.