Wow, Sorry to hear your family is so inconsiderate of you. I hope you believe that you are worth more.

Just a thought.....I would venture to say that the hostess did not cry or call you a little girl. Both are probably your mom's twist on the story. Hostess probably made a comment about wishing she had made more peppers so that you could have had one. Your mother in her sick twisted sadistic mind, wanting to hurt you and make you suffer for her own pleasure concocted the crying story to make you feel as bad and guilty as she possibly could. And it worked, here it is, how many years later, waking you out of your sleep. Parents, gotta love em --- no you dont...I finally expressed to my dad what I felt about all his sadistic abuse and cut off any futher contact. PTSD got so much better after that.