wow, it is certainly difficult to be struggling with an unsupportive mate having to handle a house full of kids. as jitters said, its never too late to start a list of house rules and consequences. you will have to talk to your husband to gain his cooperation and if he will not enforce them at least get him to support you in taking action.

and if your kids are ungrateful, then get them simple gifts for christmas. there is no rule that says you have to spend a fortune on them. theyll get over it.

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