[quote=likewater;2123581]Aveda: a lot of times if you dont care about orgasms, it is because of the loss of control.

So the first time my bf asked if I had an orgasm, it made me wonder how I was supposed to know if I have nothing to relate it to? How am I supposed to know whether or not I have had one? Like I wrote before, I've never had complaints about our sex. Sometimes it's better than other times, which is probably normal, I just don't see what all the fuss with orgasms is. As a result, I'm not hoping for them.

I do recall having two incidences of out of body experiences during sex. I can only describe them as out of body experiences because I imagine that's what people are referring to when they have them. It freaked me out because I felt like I was floating away and there was nothing I could do to stop it, even though I was physically holding onto my bf at the time and I knew that my body was not physically moving. I did not like it one bit and if that's what an orgasm is then I really don't want it. What are referring to by "loss of control"?

Also, I don't feel like taking the time to "work" on myself to figure out how I can orgasm. I just can't do it without being grossed out. It's not for me.