It sounds like you are not quite sure you deserve to feel good? Your mother feels good making decisions and you label them negatively as "emotionally-motivated".

I am reminded of my husband's and my discussion of how he sometimes does not understand me or the things I enjoy (fantasy) and labels it "irrational" when it is actually "not rational" and those are not the same! There's a whole other category out there, that is not the opposite of rational (irrational) but is alongside it (kind of like fantasy is alongside "reality" :-)

One's decision making style, whether logical or emotional cannot be "wrong", it's like one's learning style; there's almost as much chance of there being problems with a house if you get a home inspector as there is if you do not. True, they might spot bigger difficulties, like cracked foundations or be able to more easily tell you if the roof needs replacing but the things that can be "wrong" about a house once you move in that you cannot "see" are legion. Accepting that and the work that will come up as a result is probably more comfortable than, as we did, getting an excellent inspector, getting some of the egregious errors fixed or discounted, etc. but finding stuff as we live here that were "surprises". Focusing on problems and problem solving is not necessarily better than focusing on the joy of starting a new experience in a new house and including all the changes one wants to make with those one has to make.

We had the inspector and, almost seven years later, I am still grumbling about how cheap this house is. Where did the joy of living on the water in a "beach condo" feelings go? All the concentration on problems and wrangling with the previous sellers and knowing they were cheap flippers moved my focus from my I-love-this-house, to, those ba@ta^ds! As a person, I would rather be an "Pollyanna" than a complainer? I would rather see more of the good and feel good instead of looking for problems so well (I'm very good at that, understand and espouse your "logical" view myself ;-)