my birth family means nothing to me. both parents are long dead & my brother & sister i have not seen or heard from in over 20 years. i have a cousin who is a pedophile priest who i have not seen in person since 1982 & the last i heard of him was in the grand jury report..so yeah we don't keep in touch.

as for MY FAMILY OF CHOICE...they mean everything to me. for them i would hurt people. i am blessed with incredibly awesome friends, doctors etc who fill in as family. they all know my background & step up for me when i need it.

i am so used to being independent that i forget to ask for help...my friends know this & help without asking. my dr's make sure i don't get forgotten on holidays & birthdays.

like i said my birth family sucks. they are abusive, evil people of whch i am so better off without contact. i suppose if i wanted to i could locate my brother or sister & contact them...but also they could do the same. it's not going to happen..i ended up caring for my mother who was one of my abusers for years...they did not. i do know that if i won the powerball lottery both of them would be on my doorstep in less than 24 hours...which is where they would stay...out on the doorstep.

my friends & i would be enjoying ourselves quite nicely!

so yes...my adopted family is very important to me..without them i would probably not be alive.