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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Did you ever think of getting involved with a local abuse facility or even donate at a shelter of some kind? Often when we know suffering it is very helpful to reach out to others in need. Even a soup kitchen?
Why don't you see if there is anyplace you can donate your time to humanity, it can surprisingly fill a lot of need not only for others but ourselves.
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I understand that your reply is meant to be supportive, but I find it very condescending. You know NOTHING about what I do with my life. I spent three years volunteering for an agency 40hrs/wk and working a full time job. I am now taking classes in the same field (graduate school), working 20 hrs/wk, and doing a 25 hr/wk internship (where I HELP people).
For you to come in here and tell me that volunteering will solve my problems from years of emotional abuse ignores my pain. It sounds like you believe that you are better than everyone else and if I just "pulled myself up from my bootstraps" it would solve all my problems as I'm obviously just not helping others enough to feel good about myself. It makes it sound like I'm just a bratty child who doesn't value what I have. Being that while I have been in school I have had to decide between eating and being able to afford my medication, I understand the concept of sacrifice. For you to say that I need to do something for HUMANITY and it will make me feel all better is patronizing and dismissive of and the pain that I am in when I break to the point of being able to admit that I need help and reach out. One of the things I need to work on is NOT saying yes to everything that comes my way and stretching myself too thin. Humanity would be better served by me taking care of myself instead of trying to help more people. Well, unless you want me to get to the point where I totally break down.