yeah, so whether you want to call what happens in that room "love" or not, the safety and healing of T changes you, and makes you realize you don't want to settle for those shabby places where you used to live anymore. how people treated you shabby, I mean, and didn't hear you, didn't listen to you, didn't know you at all, they just used you and criticized you and told you how you didn't live up to their expectations. when actually you were obviously a very good little girl or boy all along. the whole time. this is HOW we get stronger at the broken places, T is good glue. thanks for writing this wepow, I saw some of my moments with my T in what you described, but you probably know that. you are such a careful writer.