I think that's a great question because how can you know? I think one sign it is a great match would be if you just felt it was right without the doubting. I'm not saying that if you don't feel that, you should switch, but if it is a super good fit, I think you know, even if you have no comparators.

My current T is my second T and we are a great match. My relationship with my first T was nothing like this, but I wasn't dissatisfied with the relationship. See, I didn't know that you could even have a relationship with a therapist. I thought I would just go to her and maybe she could help me climb out of the pit. I saw her off and on for 9 months, realized she couldn't help me further, so I ended therapy. I didn't intend to find another T but just stop therapy altogether, since I figured a therapist could not help with my problem. I accidentally started seeing my current T because someone I know insisted I visit him. It was completely different with him right from the start. I knew after meeting him that this man could help me. And we got along stupendously. There is no comparison to the first T. This is therapy. I don't know what I was doing with the first T.

If I hadn't seen a second T, I would never have known that the first was so deficient. I don't want to trash her, as she was a nice lady, but just not skilled and nothing between us. I didn't know how important the latter could be in facilitating progress in therapy.

I think a sign of a good fit with a therapist is if you make progress. Are you making progress in therapy, SoupDragon? Is your T helping you?