Well, I say that I feel for you guys and I understand loneliness a lot. But I must warn you that just because you have found someone, are married, and have children.... that doesn't mean you won't be lonely anymore.

I'm going through a major issue in my marriage now and I have never been this lonely before. Things are up and down at the moment. I'm praying they are getting better. But, I'm scared, too. I'm scared my husband is being lured away from me by the idea of "single is better" by people who are single with lots of "friends."

I think you both have a great opportunity. You can work on building up yourselves to be stronger and healthier without having to be concerned about another person or a child. You can work on healing as best you can. And being a healthier you will make it easier to have a healthy relationship when someone special comes along.

It can be so easy to focus only on the negatives of a current situation (I'm sure I'm doing it, too, right now.) So I hope you both feel better and can find a tiny bit of happiness. I have a sticker on my work computer that says "I am the main source of my happiness." It can be hard to believe some days, but I keep it there to remind me.