What comes to mind when you think your T might not be the best T for you?

What comes to mind when you think of having a new T - how might that be different?

Is there something you want from your T or that you want to have happen in therapy that isn't there now? Perhaps it is a desire for more depth, for a closer relationship with your T. Perhaps you are sitting very still and not rocking the boat, giving T what you think T wants to hear, pleasing T, and wishing for something more authentic from yourself. Perhaps you are nearing 'dangerous' waters and want to avoid that. Perhaps you wish for more direction, or more of something else, or less of something. Perhaps you are feeling bored in your therapy; that happens sometimes and is important to talk about too.

I have had many times of wondering if my T is what I need, or what I want. Most of those times there was something deeper at work. Often the fear of intimacy. Questioning if T was the right T for me was a way to diminish her and make her someone I needed to get away from.

Or, sometimes there is nothing more frightening that a relationship that is working well. Good grief, how can this be? There must be something wrong here. Or there must be something horrible coming: this can't last. If this can't last, then I'd better start making plans for what happens when it all falls apart.

Those are some things from my experiences. There is much to think about when these kinds of thoughts emerge.