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Originally Posted by Anj0
Is Pinky still "separate" or now part of a whole. I guess I am having problems getting everyone, especially my little's or children, to accept and recognize they will not disappear but also will not be able to come out when they want, they will be part of the whole (which I know they are now but they don't see it that way). Did any of your alters put up a fight or argue with you?
Since there are no new alters I know that we are integrating new experiences now to a point. But not all alters get the same new memory.
Does this make sense?
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yes you are making sense. Pinky and the others are now part of a whole..one of the examples my therapist used in getting me (the host) and the alters that went through a panic as each one became one with me was glasses of water. she took a pitcher of water, poured that one pitcher of water into glasses, and added separate things to represent each individual alter - this one boiling hot, that one ice cold, this one hot but not boiling and that one cold but not freezing, this one room temp, this one sweet and that one salty to represent me and the alters. then one by one she poured them all into a pitcher. first she poured the room temp one (me the host) in, then she added one by one the alters. telling and showing how each one added their volume of memories, feelings, emotions to us all. all those old memories, emotions, feelings were now being experienced by all as one whole body of water (one whole person) then she added new water to represent new memories, feelings and emotions to illustrate even though none of us are separate any longer we would all experience the new emotions, memories and feelings as one body of water, never to be separate again. there was no need for each one to be separate and "come out" have time in control of me because they would experience everything through my eyes, ears and other senses.
no none put up a fight. a few got a bit upset because dysfunction was our normal and normal was strange and confusing. each one going their separate ways and doing their own things was our normal and being one whole person working together was strange. But there wasnt a fight because for us integration happened naturally by their sharing memories, feelings, emotions. For us it wasnt a choice to integrate or not it just happened as we went along.
for a while some did get only a few new memories at a time because their jobs, reasons to be were so drastically different than another alters but eventually it was all working together as a team.
I know they are still there because I can now remember going through that thyme allergy situation. If Pinky wasnt there with me neither would that memory, Shes the one that held that memory.
It takes time, *lots* of time but it does work out.