Hello. About a year ago, I cheated on my fiance. For the following months we went over and over and over things. Every week. He decided to stay with me. He decided to still marry me. We went to counseling and the dr just told him that we need to communicate our feelings and that there was clearly something wrong in the relationship that drew me to go outside of it. He in no way defends me but says that my now husband needs to move forward, etc. We stopped going because he said he was tired of hearing the same thing over and over and he felt as if the doctor was trying to justify what I had done to some how excuse it. We have been married for about a month or so now. On our wedding day, he pledged to move forward and to not dwell in the past. This was a new chapter and that we could close all the chapters. Things seemed ok but lately it seems like we are spiralling back through everything all over again. The questions, the hurt, the tears, everything. He is saying things that he wants to do for revenge that are freaking me out. When we get in to these discussions, I ask him why he married me still after all of this and his response is always the same. He says he loves me and does not want to live a life without me. After the conversations pass he holds me and kisses me and promises me forever. Will he ever really be ok? Is our marriage really going to survive?
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