It sounds like you are very unhappy with your situation. You have attempted to express with him each thing that has upset you about living with this man and he has made it clear that this is how he is, no negotiation. He is 57 and unlikely to change. His manner of living has forced you to live as a prisoner in your own home.

Subsequently, you appear to have two choices:

1) Learn to accept this behavior and continue living there being disrespected in your attempts to communicate and spending your time living in your room for solace from the anger.

2) Make arrangements to move out so you regain your freedom

Only you can decide which you want to do. Being alone is a scary prospect but is it scarier than the consequences of staying in a relationship that is taking so much away from your self-esteem and well being.

Good luck and may you find peace with your choice.