Hi there! I would like to suggest that when the facilitator said he wasn't angry, what he meant was he did not want to be angry and he was trying not to be, so in his mind he was not there yet even though it appeared so. Please don't think people are intentionally lying to you about their emotions, it is more likely they are just not in touch with them, or working hard not to have them! and bravo to you for working to understand how people are feeling, that is not always easy