My 72 year old father has to have an operation [under general anaesthetic] on the neck of his bladder to prevent further kidney damage that has arisen due to complications of an untreated infection over a year or so ago. He, and my Mum [and me] are scared. I'm their only child. The operation will be within the next month or so.

I'm also getting closer to a major restructure at work, and I will no longer be working with people who mean a lot to me and have made all the difference to me being able to work with my illness. In particular if I work where I want and need to work [for various reasons connected with my mental health] when the restructure is actioned early next year, I will be losing my current manager. I'm very attached to her, and she has really made a difference to me at work. And you know what REALLY sucks? I pretty much need to work in that area of the borough that I 99.999% will be due to mental health issues [particularly with finding public transport too stressful] but to do so means I lose a manager who's very understanding of my mental health. IT SUCKS. Majorly.

A significant part of my illness is an attachment disorder. This makes both these situations more painful and upsetting than the norm. Of course an unwell elderly parent facing surgery, changes at work and loss is upsetting and stressful for anyone, but with an attachment disorder it's however many times harder. Not to mention that Christmas is approaching - a time when I have in the past felt very isolated.

I found out about my Dad, and about losing my manager, within an hour of each other on Wednesday.

I'm feeling vulnerable and sad and angry and alone, and it's all too much, too much anyway, but too much all at once even more so.

Plus there's tension between me and my flatmate and her son. It's all so hard.
Any words of empathy, understanding and support would be most welcome, please.