I hope the Ativan works for you - I just got an anxiolytic prescribed too, but I'm a little scared to take it since everything I've read suggests that it's just going to put me to sleep.

I know a lot of people take Benadryl to help them sleep. Have you tried that? Dramamine used to reliably knock me out, but not if I'm hypomanic. I find melatonin usually works.

Take your husband up on his offer - marriage is a partnership, full of compromises and sacrifices, and it sounds like you have a supportive spouse, which is really great.