I am in a long term relationship right now. I don't see any problem with seeing friends of the opposite sex. Granted, most of my friends are females, I still have a few males that I'm close to. I have no aims of pursuing anything beyond a friendship with these people. I think, to a degree, my boyfriend does get jealous. However, it's nothing that gets between us because we have laid a foundation of trust. I've even had lunch with a friend where he paid!

In a way it's me talking about male stars I find attractive. XD He sometimes gets a bit jealous of that, too, but its harmless. I think if your partner is restricting who you can see because they are so fearful of you cheating or bad intentions of the other person there in lies a trust/jealousy issue. If you're going to get coffee, it is at a public place (I am hoping!) and if the partner is getting uncomfortable they can always stop the conversation and leave. Tell them they are uncomfortable with close contact...blahblah. Be confident in the relationship and in the person you are with.