(((Claire-Marie))) really sorry you are confused & struggling. I would be scared& alarmed too.
Most of us aren't professionals & legally can't advise you as to what you need to do about the things you describe.

If I can ask you some questions, they may or may not be things you haven't considered yet or they may be things you're already working on.
Do you have a T or pdoc, if so on any meds?

Since these dreams, as you call them, have started to concern you because you are confused as to what/which is real or not, & the time lag is sometimes days instead of just waking up in the morning & knowing right then it was a dream, well these distinctions can only be made by therapist & psychiatrist.

I wish you the best in finding help with your issues.
Take care of yourself & keep posting.