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Dec 03, 2011, 03:11 AM
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Member Since: Nov 2011
Location: Australia
Posts: 63
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Hi guys this might sound like a stupid question, but over a week ago my ex boyfriend, we were potentially going to get back togther as we both still love one another but things have been very complicated over the last few months ( well i assume he loves me), stopped talking to me suddenly like literally dropped off the planet he stopped answering my calls and texts everything.
So i just assumed he did not want anything more to do with me as anyone would.
Some background on my ex he is currently separated from his wife and because of legal isssues is not able to see his children. So as there is in any breakup you have the grief from a breakup/ potential end of a marriage and then the pain of not being able to see your children, and there is another issue in that he may go to jail lose his job f he does and his house etc, which is causing alot of stress too i assume.
Ok so on Saturday i sent a text to my ex boyfriend saying that i was going to leave him be, and that i hoped life treated him kindly etc.
On Tuesday i recieved a repy:
It said dear Me: I realise that you think i have dissed you! and you hate my guts, and yes still alive, but i am in a terrible place and have needed to be by myself, and you were right it is just me. I do look now and realise that i should have just said i needed space insted of shutting you out. yes that is my bad and i will wear it. I understand you letting me go as all i seem to do is hurt you, im not proud that i have done it. I also guess that four days can change a persons feelings unfortunately i dont have that ability. so i hope life gives you a good go as well, you are beautiful and have alot to offer the world. i would like to think that i was your friend but looking back that is hard to say.
love him
ps rememeber you are a good no great person who offers everything and who doesnt expect anything in return! and you ahve so much to live or etc.
I sent back saying that he should have just told me, and that i said those things because i thought he had dissed me and that i was going to keep trying to be his friend.
I sent a another text apoligising as i should have known that was why he was ignoring me, because when he cant handle things has shut down and has ignored me before because it was too much stress in his life or something like that.
he has not replied to any of my texts and i have left voice messages as well ( yes i know stalker)
Its like all those time i forgave him and he cannot even forgive me once, its like im being punished.
What do you guys think have I ruined everything and he never wants to speak to me again, and all i wanted to do was make everything better for him, and now ive lost him.
Or maybe its same problem he just needs time, i dont know.
What should i do?
Im asking for an objective opinion, as i am literally so scared that he has stopped loving me and will never speak to me again. can you just stop loving someone if you do not see them for long time and maybe he will realise he never loved me at all.
what should i do, what do you think is going on insde his head?
Is it normal for people who are going through alot of stress and grief to isolate people out of there lives?
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