I was dating a guy for a year and he was always forcing me into stuff and I never enjoyed sex. In fact I hated it, untill I started dating my bf of now, I never thought that sex can actualy be nice and enjoyable. That's when I had my very first orgasm. I found that the only way for me to get it, is to get on top of him, that way I can move around until I find the spot. But I also don't always get it, its all about foreplay for me.