I don't think you need studies or terminologies as much as you need to relax. If you want to make friends with other young people, drop the lecturing tone and chill. If you really want deep conversations of meaningful import, then join groups that focus on your interests; you will then find yourself with others who share at least some of your interests and be more likely to find people with similar intellect. Some young women in the United States are crude, crass and don't appreciate a gentleman; but there are still plenty of women who appreciate good manners. If all you find are young women who like bad characters, I think you are looking among the wrong kind of young women. You might find reading about Aspergers illuminating.