(((likewater))) and (((bluemountains))) - it's like your describing my childhood! My mother was like both of yours. She did and still does trick everybody around her into believing she has no issues. No one really sees her for who she really is. Read the tale of The Emperor's New Clothes by Hans Christian Anderson, which illustrates well what my mother is like in terms of being placed on a pedestal and no one seeing it. Read it - a great little story. My mum got my oldest sister to do her 'dirty work' by emasculating me at age 11. Yes my body memories told me this. If you want to stay in contact message me.