I always idealize intelligent, strong, most of the time older (but not too old..lol) men. I'm just now realizing how much of my life I have done this...even when I was very young. I hold them up...and if they let me down-my world crashes around me...I can't tolerate it. I don't search out these men-they just come into my life-I have found I can only have one man in that role at a time...right now it's T. I have never idealized a woman...and I don't think I ever will...as a matter of fact I hate weak women who can be manipulated-they enrage me. hmm...now that I'm thinking about all this I feel completely crazy!!! lol ; )