hmm no i would not wish this on anyone and if i was honest and a friend was in this position i would tell them that they deserve better, years from now he will regret how he treated you he just cannot see it yet, or maybe he wont, but that wont matter by then as it will all be a dstant memory. The truth is no one wanted to take control of the situation, not him and not her, though im the youngest of us three it has to be me. that and i have no other choice as he is too consumed with his own problems, and thinks that being by himself is what he needs. i not talking about being back in a relationship wth him now, but i did want to be there for him, i know we could never just be friends because the love i feel for him is more romantic than plutonic.

I just have to accept that he wants nothing more to do with me, its been over a week and i have heard nothing.
so i have to assume that when he sent that message he was just obsolving his guilt etc.

i just wanted to know if maybe there was a chance that because of all the stress in his life, as i would assume the possibilty o going to jail, missing your children and not being able to see them, plus the separation from her is all stressful stuations and that he literally just cannot take it anymore so i am the one paying the price by him ignoring me, and that he may re-emerege and talk to me again, but i have to give up that hope now, as its proably not gong to happen and move on, and just go on existing and fake it until i make it.

i guess i wanted an objective view without people looking at what i had written about him in the past, but tha past makes people who they are and there is a whole history behind this etc.

sorry if that confuses everyone.
thanks