so i've been with my boyfriend for almost nine years, we have a 7 year old daughter together and i have 2 children of my own. throughout those nine years things have been insanely out of control. i've hd hints that he has cheated, all i ever hear is what is wrong with me, arguments have gotten so bad that it has gotten physical by both of us, insults are thrown at me all the time, he also throws in my face anything that he has ever purchased or when we've gone out to eat all together and he pays or when he has to drive me or the kid somewhere. and despite everything i've mentioned theres more. now my issue is that i've old him many, many, many times to just pack up his things and leave since he has so many problems with me, and he refuses to leave. on top of that he feels that he doesnt have to help pay bills in the house. he owns his own house and feels that since he has to pay bills for that house(that he doesnt live in) that he shouldnt have to pay bills in my house that he lives in or that should help him pay for the other house. now the other house doesnt have anything under my name and i dont live there so itell him that he lives in my house and should help pay bills, and to that he says im greedy and just want more money. i have tried packing his clothes and the minute i touch anything thats his he grabs me and pushes me or has choked me and even pulled my hair and has said he's bigger and can control me. i am constantly having to put up with the insults, name calling and i feel so depressed and stressed out all the time. i dont know how to get him to just leave my house and leave me alone, where i dont have to worry about him acting like a stalker(which he did when we broke up a few years ago for a few months). i am trying really hard to do this without involving cops or courts and i dont know what else to do...any ideas or comments would be appreciated, and fyi if anyone wants to call me stupi or dumb for my situation please just dont write, i get enough of that from him...thanks, and thanks for reading.