If you dont want to orgasm that's ok. I'm glad your boyfriend is patient. If he weren' t, i'd say kick him to the curb. I didn't orgasm for long time and right now , i'm breaking from sex. But just fyi to have orgasm must people don' t stick vibrator in them to orgasm. In fact you can buy a "ladybug" that isn' t shamed like a man' s you know, and it just goes on the clitoris. The main thing, is just do what makes you feel comfortable and what you want.