There is nothing stupid or dumb about you or your situation. As for the money...I understand him not 'wanting' to pay since he owns his own house but...if that's the case then he needs to leave. He sounds like he just wants absolute control over you. I hope neither of you have ever been physical with your child. This is abuse in every sense of the word and it sounds like it would be best for everyone if you two were apart. Have you gone to talk to the police? If he is physically hurting you or the child (or both), call them and have him arrested for assault. This is absolutely unacceptable.

And there is always the whole thing about "but he is my child's father". In this case, it sounds like the child is being harmed by you two staying together. It would be better to grow up not knowing your father than to see this kind of emotional and physical abuse.

I would check out women's shelters in your area and talk to someone. These people are there specifically for situations like this and know how to help - but you have to be the one to seek it out. Please do not let this go any further! You and your child do not deserve this! Please get out as soon as you can. I know that sounds easier than it is but you need to protect yourself.

(((((((hugs)))))))