great insight, you have great insight into these issues. you are describing my mother (and therefore me). the lack of morality is appalling, their presence is suffocating. I agree with sky, you so totally have to get out. it will kill your soul to stay. it will ruin your life your relationships any chance for normalcy any hope for happiness. tie a bundle to a stick and take a hike! okay maybe not that extreme! but make plans to free yourself, it will be worth it.