A couple of years ago, I saw a T for meditation instruction (in addition to my T). When we started, she was very open, warm, caring, encouraging me to contact her between sessions even when she was on vacation, etc.

She suddenly changed, and became very distant and told me we couldn't e-mail anymore. I have no idea what happened...it was like she was one way, and then *poof* she was another way.

It completely. freaked. me. out. I have a really, really hard time trusting people, and I had let her in a little bit and what it FELT like was she had seen "all" of me, and rejected me. Ugh.

She and my T talked and I decided to end the relationship with her. Not in a dramatic fashion at all...I think I told her I would like to take a break (because I wasn't sure how to proceed) and after processing with T and dealing with my big feelings, I realized that it was healthiest for me to just stick with T and to let the relationship with her go.

It was HARD. I tend to be drawn to people who act in a negative way towards me...probably replaying my childhood wishes to get my mom to love me. But I took the break, talked to T about it as much as I needed to, and just worked through the feelings when I had the urge to contact her.

She still crosses my mind sometimes...occasionally, she'll pop into my head when I sit down to meditate...but for the most part, I am truly completely over it. And kind of like with you and your T...my T was not at all impressed with how she had handled it. She is a colleague of his, and I know he was unhappy with how she handled things...which made me feel sort of protected and cared for, which I guess looking back was a silver-ish lining, although I'm not sure I saw that at the time.

I don't want to try to tell you what to do (at all!) but I wanted to share my story in case there is anything in there that helps.
to you!