Well, I have experience with a T being completely different at 'work' vs. in private life. I know a T personally and her clients would be totally shocked at her behavior outside of the therapy room. Shocked!! That's why when people think they're in love with their T's, I always think - yeah, that's easy because they really don't know the whole person.

I think it's fine to be attached to our T's. I am. But I have little illusions that her therapy persona is her complete persona. That's fine with me. I will never be friends with my T and what I need from her is what she brings into the therapy room. Who she is outside of therapy doesn't concern me too much.

Even so, I could never imagine my T being harsh or mean or insensitive IRL. Her brand of therapy would pretty much preclude that.

Stormy - I'm so sorry you have to experience this, Ouch!!