[i don't understand why this is so upsetting (well ok i do a little bit but) really none of us know our t's that well...what they are like outside of that little box of therapy....what they are like at home, with their friends, family, at parties etc..

where i used to work we were expected to be "on" all the time..friendly, helpful, professional...we had an image to present to the public..stray from that image & probably 85% of that time a congressman got a complaint. didn't matter if you were right or wrong the public complained. so if you were tired, cranky, hungover what ever...that wasn't the face the public got to see

people are amazed when i switch into my "work" mode in places..even tho it's been 15 years since i retired on a disability pension. they don't normally see the law enforcement side of me...so when it pops out it floors them. but it is as much of who i am as my goofy, fun loving side.

my t has a life...she has 4 kids, hobbies, activities etc. none of which include me. i don't know if she cleans the house nekkid, watches soaps, drag races, closes the bars or any of that...nor do i want to. it is her life. she also doesn't know all of that about me either...

so the fact that this t presents herself as one way in the office & the other outside doesn't shock me...work is work, home is home. we all have roles to play.