Hey...I'm sorry your hurting so much, but a month is a very short amount of time to get over the loss of a long-term (10 year!) relationship. I know it hurts like ####ing hell... I'm sure you see her everywhere, and nowhere, and feel completely lost at times, but you will recover from this...you just have to wait it out. It sucks, but there's no way to bypass all the stages of mourning...without letting time slowly heal you.

I've been in and out of love, I don't know how many times...where I'd thought I'd die from the excruciating pain (I'm bpd). After trying any and all vices to speed the recovery, I discovered what helped me the most was hard physical activity...for me, that's skiing, cycling and running. Do you like any outdoor activities? Oh, and also, traveling helped, too...spending time in new places where I had no memories of the person. You don't have to go far - just somewhere new.

I don't know what transpired in your relationship, but sometimes it just wasn't meant to be...there will be someone better for you in the future. There always is. For now, you have to focus on taking care of yourself.

No matter how it feels now, you will get over this with time...But I have a feeling you already know this...yes? Just keep telling yourself that "it", too, will pass... And it will...('til the next time...sorry, just kidding.)