i started seeing a guy a couple of months ago. i met him on the internet. he is local to me and we got on really well. he mentioned his ex wife had bi-polar on our first date so as we were on the subject i told him that i did too.

for the first two months he didnt seem phased by it. he said he really liked me and could see him growing really attached to me. he met my kids and everything.

then one day - just out of the blue he stopped talking to me. i tried to get out of him for two days what it was that was the matter. he eventually text after leaving me hanging saying that he was scared because his ex had the bi polar and she wrecked him and he became suicidal himself. he said after 4 years he still couldnt get over what she did to him so he was calling it a day with me.

i told him i felt hurt that he was branding me and assuming that i had all the capabilities that she had

i feel distraught that he dumped me because of this illness and didnt take the time to figure me out as a person. he said he really likes me lots but he cant get out of his head that i have bi polar and so does she.

i feel like this illness is defining me now and i cant hack it