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Old Dec 05, 2011, 07:52 PM
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Originally Posted by sunrise View Post
It was interesting that when my husband and I did couples sessions with my T, especially in the first few where my husband was brand new to T, T explained the process a lot more and was really left-brained with my husband. He took a really different approach than with me! So I could see right in front of my eyes that T acted differently with different clients. (I still remember sitting there watching T, thinking "who are you?" LOL)
That's interesting. Do you have an idea why your t explained the process to your husband more than to you?

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Originally Posted by skysblue View Post

So, I have read a ton of books in order to grasp some understanding of 'the process'. Because of that reading along with the help my T is giving, I think I have gained a lot.

What I'm wondering is if T had better explained to me what the 'process' was, would I have more easily aligned myself with it? Being so confused about what was going on as we traveled this newly opened emotional road became part of my problem.
Are you sure there is a process that could have been logically predicted and explained, in a way you would have agreed with, ahead of time? I'm not sure I believe there's such a clearly definable process. But if you feel you have some insights now that would have helped if they had been explained logically before you discovered them yourself, I think it wouldn't hurt to say so to your therapist. Maybe it would be another strategy for her to use sometimes.
Thanks for this!
skysblue