((happycheeks)) - I want to encourage you not to take your lack of finding a job personal. I think its very hard all over many countries to find jobs ATM. This isn't a reflection of YOUR self worth. When I was your age I didn't know what I wanted to do, so you're not the only one...you're finding your way that's all. The great thing is, you're trying. One thing I regret is not getting some guidance - this means going to the education facility you're interested in and take a questionnaire to see what your strengths are and you can also go to a professional job placement agency. Since you love animals maybe you can be an assistant in a veterinary office helping animals.

Now I'm going to give you some tips on how you put yourself down. When I was your age I didn't have strong self esteem and I was shy, even though I was good looking. As I got older I got more confidence and became stronger..... so some of what you're feeling is from being young. I see you often post about putting yourself down and many here reassure you, then you often feel better but its doesn't last long - right? I'm going to share why that is - if we're insecure and feeling down, we crave validation and reassurance which is good to a point. The important thing to remember is - reassurance from others doesn't permanently help us. What really helps us is finally knowing and love ourselves - we are the key to building our own self esteem. Now I understand your mom doesn't help you sometimes and that could be part of the reason.

I have taught my girls how to be strong young women and you also can do this. I didn't have that strength at your age but I gained it on my own and so can you. A persons self worth isn't their job or how great looking they are, its how they're a good person and how a person tries despite hard times. Make an appt with a career counselor and deal with a professional job placement agencies. You have just a much value as anyone else, BUT you need to believe this..... so when you're down you'll be able to soothe yourself. When you have strong self esteem there could be a tornado of bad things happening around but you will remain strong. I'm teaching you what I didn't know at the age of 18. You will find your way and always believe in yourself.