It sounds like he's trying to be supportive the best way he knows how. And from your other posts, it sounds like you have pretty good communication too. Just keep trying to keep the communication channels open - I know it's hard, but that's what makes marriages work, so we all have to do it anyway!

Maybe if you can (calmly!) explain that you have a hard time getting back to sleep if the baby's upset, so you don't mind doing the caretaking? Or you could set up an arrangement to swap nights to get up. There are always earplugs - lifesavers for me on flights with cranky infants! With both of you getting too little sleep, it's got to be tough all around, and it really sounds like your husband is trying his best to take care of everyone. One technique that might help (if you don't already do it) is perspective-taking. Try to see things from your husband's perspective, as that might help you better understand his concerns and reactions.

Hang in there - it's a tough row to hoe; no doubt. I can't imagine having an infant screwing up my sleep!